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so i know i dont have many followers, and i dont thing many people will read this, so im going to make this kinda personal because i have had so much on my mind and i really just need to get it all out there!
first off: being home for vacation kinda sucks. my hometown is really boring and there is nothing here for me except my mother and cats and dogs. i love my mom in everyday, she is the greatest woman on the planet, and she tries very hard to make my time at home count. sadly i have no friends in my home town, how you ask because the kids from my school all seem to suck and no one really wants to be my friend, and hey thats whatever, but being in a place where i have no one to turn to except my mother can be annoying. being at school in philly i have all my friends and social things. i just wish there was a way to make it all work out when i was home, but it doesnt happen that way.
ok second off, which sorta goes with the first one, on top of being alone at home with no friends, i wish i had a boyfriend. i miss being in a relationship. being able to care about someone and have them return those feelings. i see all these people with their boyfriends and i just get jealous. i wish i was happy like that. not to say im not happy, cuz i am happy. i dont need a man, but i would love to have one in my life. someone to count on. 
thirdly, Im in love with my best friend. he knows, i told him that i did. im crazy about him, i wish he could just see how perfect we are together, we have all these similarities and just get along so well, which i guess is good for our friendship. even after i told him, he acted like nothing has changed, and it just makes me question if ill ever be right for anyone. heres some background on me, i had a relationship my senior year of high school, so like 2 years ago. and it went well until i started college and we had a terrible beak up and i just feel like ever since then ive been in this slump and there is this invisible sign above my head saying :dont date:. i just dont want to be lonely this christmas. i want to bring home a nice sweet guy to a family event and have everyone love him.WHERE IS MY FAIRYTALE???? 
i know there arent fairytales. i know im being unrealistic when i dream of my best friend falling madly in love with me, but hey a girl can dream.
anyways i think thats about it for now, if you read this entire thing, well thinks
leave comments if you have any suggestions on how i should handle my life because i just dont know anymore.
MUCH LOVE <3 
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I understand the feeling of having no friends to hang with but as you've stated your only home for the holidays. The town my be a boring place to be however no matter how small a town there will always be events around holidays that you could attend. They may not be interesting at all but at the close of the day it's about the adventure created from going to "nowhere" wherever your feelings take you from the nowhere places (doesn't really make sense until you go out and do it).

As for the BF thing as a dude I know that if I had a best friend that is a girl, I would not want to mess up that relationship. If something goes wrong and were to break up not only would I lose a lover I would also lose a best friend. Losing a best friend is really painful and so is losing a lover, as they are both people I care much for. I never had any real friends until 3 years after high school. From what I could tell from observing my pseudo friends who did wind up dating their best friends most couldn't handle it whatsoever. 2 of them wound up alcoholics, 1 blew her brains out, 3 went crazy and got sent to jail for misc. charges, and 1 tried to take her with him on his way to hell, all in all, a bad idea.

OK, I've seen this :don't date: more and more often as I get older. From your pic here you're a lovely girl but being pretty isn't the only thing that's needed. I don't know you so I will not make suggestions for how to behave or change your personality. On the other hand I have a few suggestions for you, you could try if you're not already doing them. Smile, even if you don't feel like it lots of girls I know that want a BF but cannot get one is mainly because they look pissed off all the time even if they aren't. Stand up straight, just like how girls like guys who have good posture the same could be said fro guys, also a girl who holds themselves well gives of 3 different vibes depending on the guy (Vibe 1: She's not slouching shes got confidence. Vibe 2: Straight upright standing she's either bitchy or really nice. Vibe 3: She looks like she can dance.). Do NOT start conversations about wanting to have a BF it gives off a feeling of desperation, when girls give off the desperation effect in the back of my mind the "oh shit!" alarm goes off. If I were to try and date the girl she would most likely get really clingy really fast and then get paranoid that I am cheating on her, no good (Don't get me wrong on this clingy in a relation ship is good to a point, it means she and I care for each other however when the clingy gets too much problems occur). Lastly attire, the usual do's and don'ts here. Be classy don't dress like a slut unless you want to be treated like one, don't wear over sized sweatpants hoodies or other clothes as such unless your looking to hide yourself. Something casual and fun is the best way to go even semi-formal is great. One last thing the glasses, personally I say wear them out and about, if the next person your chatting up cannot see past the glasses they are not worth it.

Any who; Have a wonderful holiday!